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Books That Actually Help
I put together a list of books that actually helped me understand what it means to be human, why it’s so hard sometimes, and how to navigate it. You can find all these books, audiobooks, and workbooks in the Books section.
They’re all written in plain language that any human can understand – no therapy jargon that makes your brain hurt. The authors explain things in ways that feel like a smart friend talking to you over coffee, not like a clinical textbook.
These books blend science with real life. Most of the authors are clinical psychologists and therapists who’ve spent decades working with real humans in therapy. They’re teaching you what they’ve proven works in their offices. Others are researchers studying how humans actually function. They’re not guessing – they’re sharing what their studies found. The science is there – peer-reviewed studies, clinical experience, years of research. And these authors translate it into language that any human can understand. They share stories and examples that make sense in an engaging and often funny way.
All the books are packed with things you can actually DO. They don’t just tell you what’s going on or explain theories. They give you specific actions to try. Immediately. Small steps that actually help.
I tagged what format I recommend, but for most of the recommended books you’ll find book-books (on paper), ebooks, and audiobooks. I usually start with the audiobooks. And if I find the audiobook very insightful, I often get the ebook as well so I can highlight the most interesting takeaways for my notes to you.
Meow! A lot of those e-books and audiobooks are available for free at Hoopla and Libby apps with your library card.
Explore My Notes 📜
🗂️ By Category
- Connect with Others (19)
- Deal with Tough Moments (21)
- Discover Who You Are (12)
- Handle Your Thoughts and Feelings (30)
- Move Forward (16)
✨ By Most Recent:
- Your no protects your yes
- On some days you just can’t
- This is hard
- Calm down with your senses in 5-4-3-2-1
- Stop apologizing so much
- Read these books (or don’t, I’ve got you either way)
- You can’t avoid disappointing others (or being disappointed)
- Give only what you want and can
- If you don’t ask you’re saying NO to yourself
- Let’s see how it goes
- You don’t know how much time you have
- You have the right to be human
- There are three sides to every story
- Appreciate your humans
- Have an emotional emergency kit ready
- Are they really not trying?
- There’s no way to not choose
- Turn your shoulds into coulds
- Be you. Be real. Be weird.
- it’s okay to hide sometimes
- You are not bad. You did something bad.
- Don’t lock yourself away
- Discover your inner compass
- Keep as much on the not-a-shit side as you can
- Learn from what you should have done
- A podcast episode about me!
- What are all those Therapy Terms about?
- Right where it belongs?
- Let your inner counselor decide
- Be there for others
- Find your passion?
- Listen to understand
- You don’t have time, you make time
- So long, and thanks for all the fish
- That’s good enough!
- You can only control yourself and your reality
- 30 seconds to calm(er)
- All the feelings. All at once.
- What is going on right now?
- Chose carefully who you want to trust
- Ask for what you need
- Take a next step. Even if it’s tiny.
- Imagine yourself somewhere safe and relaxed
- Catch it. Check it. Change it.
- Humans are terrible at predicting the future
- The world doesn’t mind about you as much as you think
- Who can I ask for support?
- Allow yourself to get angry
- Always be on your own side
- Get to know yourself (again)
- Be your(authentic)self
- Find your fun
- Have more fun!
- It’s all about your interpretation
- Listen to music
- Too much? Distract yourself.
- Angry? Here’s a playlist
- Dare to show your belly
- Trying is the first step towards failure
- The power of yet
- Does it help to worry that much?
- Maybe that’s a bit too dramatic?
- It’s not a threat. It’s a challenge.
- What would Simon’s Cat do?
- Let’s go to the future
- Squeeeeeze! Get a hug.
- Your brain is like VELCRO® and like Teflon™
- Is it really about you?
- Cuddle with your cat
- You’re never doing nothing
- How do I feel?
- Change the spotlight
- It is what it is
- How can I support you?
- The Pie of Life. Get the balance right.
- Everything in life is only for now
- Relax. Get a massage.
- Find your Glimmers
- Treat yourself like you treat your cat
- Opposites can co-exist
- Your body is trying to keep you safe
- You made it through the day!
- Is that helpful?
- Do the Opposite
- Change what you DO to get better
- It sucks less, if you find some humor
- Don‘t believe everything you think
- Some help please?
- The downward spiral
- It‘s okay to say NO
- Embrace Conflict
- What you think, feel, and do impact each other
- What do I need?
- Cut yourself some slack
- You’re not alone
- You have one life only
- What are these notes all about?
- It’s me!
