Dear Human 💕,

I can see that you want to say no, but you feel uncomfortable with it. You’re worried about disappointing the other human. You’re worried about seeming rude or selfish. So instead of saying no, you say yes to things you don’t actually want to do.

Here’s why it’s worth it to say no even when it feels uncomfortable: You have limited time and energy. And you get to decide how you spend it. The more you say NO to things you don’t want to spend your time or energy on, the more you can say YES to what matters to you.

So, here’s a different way to look at saying no: Saying no allows you to protect your time and energy. It’s honest. You’re being clear about what works for you and what doesn’t. That’s respectful to both you and the other human. Other humans can say no too. When everyone is honest about what works for them, you can work it out together. If something doesn’t work for you, it’s okay to say no. You don’t need to explain or justify yourself.

Start with something small. The next time someone asks you to do something you don’t want to do, try saying “I can’t” or “That doesn’t work for me.” Notice how it feels. Notice that the world doesn’t end. Notice that most humans just say “okay” and move on.

Meow. The more you practice saying no, the easier it gets.

You want me to come cuddle, but I’m watching a bird outside. I don’t leave the window. The bird is more important to me right now. I can’t right now.

I’ll come cuddle in a bit.

Yours,
Cat 🐾