Dear Human 💕,

I can see you’re angry at that human. They haven’t reached out in weeks. They keep canceling plans. They don’t seem to be making any effort at all. It feels like a one-sided friendship.

You’re thinking: They don’t care. They’re not even trying. If they wanted to see me, they would make time.

Here’s what I’ve learned from watching humans:

When you assume another human is not doing their best, you feel angry and bitter toward them. When you assume they are doing their best, you can feel for them and care about what they’re going through.

So ask yourself: Is it possible they’re actually doing their best right now?

Maybe their best looks different than you expected. Maybe they’re dealing with something you don’t know about. Maybe they’re struggling and barely keeping it together.

I’ve seen you on those days when your best was just getting out of bed and feeding me. That was it. Nothing else. And that was okay because it was your best that day.

Other humans have those days too. Sometimes those days turn into weeks or months.

This doesn’t mean you need to accept being ignored or hurt. Your feelings matter. But assuming they’re doing their best – even if their best isn’t enough for you right now – changes how you feel about it.

You can still be disappointed. You can still need more. You can still decide what you will and won’t accept. But you can let go of feeling so angry and bitter.

Maybe reach out and ask how they’re doing? Maybe they need some support right now.

Yours,
Cat 🐾

P.S. Of course, if this keeps happening over and over, maybe their best just isn’t compatible with what you need in a friendship. And that’s okay too. Not all humans are meant to be in each other’s lives forever.